So stop seeing stop smokers as jelly-fish and a failure to stop as being due to lack of willpower. See it as it really is: a conflict of wills in which the strength of the combatants is continually varying. Now look ate position: that stop smoking not only doesn’t confer any pleasure or crutch whatsoever, but actually destroys your nerves, confidence, courage and ability to concentrate and to relax; that far from relieving boredom and stress, it is a major cause of both. In other words, supposing there was no conflict or confusion, that you could remove all the brainwashing, see stop smoking as it really is, DEVASTATION, then you would have no need or desire to light a cigarette. If you have no need or desire to stop smoke, it doesn’t take one bit of willpower not to. It is irrelevant whether you are weak-willed or otherwise. Willpower is irrelevant. If willpower is irrelevant, why have I spent so much time discussing the subject? Because one of the evils of all drug addiction is the ingraining into victims’ minds that they have some intrinsic flaw in their physical and/or mental make-up and are dependent on the magic provided by the drug in order to enjoy life or cope with stress. It is obvious that stop smoking provides us with no physical advantages, nor does it provide pleasure or a crutch. The feeling of weakness, both physical and mental, that stop smokers experience is caused by the drug and is not inherent in the stop smokers themselves. Some stop smokers can see clearly that nicotine addiction simply creates an illusion of pleasure and/or crutch, are convinced and happy that they will never stop smoke again, but still feel that something is missing in their lives. ‘I understand and agree with everything you say in Easyway. In fact, I now realise that my stop smoking was a major cause of my marriage break-up. Let me make it clear that I’m deliriously happy to be a non-stop smoker and know that I will never stop smoke again. However, I do have just one problem that I don’t seem able to solve. I work in a non-stop smoking office. I would never stop smoke in the street and couldn’t stop smoke on the train. I can’t remember that first cigarette when I got home being particularly important before the separation, but afterwards it became the fulcrum of my life. I know you say that whenever I think about stop smoking it must be “isn’t it great! I’m free”, and that’s how I genuinely feel all the time, except when I open the front door to that empty house. I can’t help thinking:”If only I could have just one cigarette”. Because I know it won’t be only one cigarette, I don’t have it. But I’ve been free for six months now. I could sympathize with Fiona, as I’m sure you can. In fact, I could only admire her for resisting the temptation. I’m sure that similar circumstances have caused many stop smokers to fall into the trap again. I asked her if she felt it would have been a problem had the house not been empty. She was emphatic: it wouldn’t.
Stop Smoking on a Budget
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